“It doesn’t matter how old you are, how cool you think you or the other person is, or even if you can speak the same language. To borrow the words of a male friend of mine: In the end, however, it all comes down to being honest and sincere about your feelings. The important part is being able to tell someone how you feel. It doesn’t matter how old you are, how cool you think you or the other person is, or even if you can speak the same language. Then I said ‘of course I will.’ He was really confused for a minute, but after reading it again, he laughed and we started dating soon after.” (Jean, American, 27) I gave the paper to him and asked him to read it for me, which he did.
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“I had a crush on my Japanese tutor, and I wasn’t sure how to ask him out, so I googled how to tell someone you like them in Japanese, and wrote it down. I even have a story from a friend about how she used Japanese itself to confess: I’ve done it, and lived to tell the tale, so you can do it too. Ultimately, the result of any kokuhaku can only tell you exactly what the person you’ve just confessed to feels about you, for better or worse.Ĭonfessing your interest to the Japanese person of your dreams doesn’t have to be scary - there are plenty of women who have done it before. On the other hand, detractors say that fears of rejection and heartbreak were reason enough to wait until a relationship developed on its own. Fans are quick to point out that it’s the best way in which to see whether or not someone is interested and if you should allow those feelings to persist. The idea of a kokuhaku itself has both fans and detractors. Would you like to stop for a drink/coffee on the way home? If that special someone is a person you work with or if you’re out as a group but want to get to know someone specific a little better, you might want to try this less confession-y approach: The thing is, I’ve been interested in you for a while now, and I was wondering if you’d like to go on a date sometime? Jitsu wa (name) ga mae mae kara ki ni natteiru. We’ve been friends for a while now, but, truth is, I’ve started to like you in a different way.
Watashitachi wa mae kara tomodachi dakedo, jitsu wa suki ni natta. Jitsu wa, (the person’s name) ga suki desu. If you’re a pretty frank person and know your perspective date well, the following are solid and very straightforward approaches: It never works out well.” But you get that - I love you is not a typical phrase you’d say to someone you haven’t even started dating, is it? “It’s tantamount to a kokuhaku suicide,” said one friend who also added that “saying that makes you sound like a stalker. is tantamount to a kokuhaku suicide.Ī ishiteru (愛してる) - the big “I love you” - is never, ever meant to be part of a confession. It is not recommendable to use it when you’re first expressing your love to someone, but if you two get in a relationship, by all means, tell them this later. I asked as many Japanese guys as I could (I lost count after 20), and the general consensus was that, unless you two had been friends for a while, this word feels cliché. (Does this happen in real life?!) However, according to most of my Japanese male friends, it actually seems to have the opposite effect with the guys. Hitomebore (一目惚れ) means “to fall in love at first sight” and might sound like a proper way to express your feelings toward someone, especially if you’re actually honest about falling in love instantly. Hopefully, as both are some of the most commonly used verbs, you can quickly grasp the situations where one or the other is used.The part of the whole confession-making process that makes most people (in any language) nervous is what words to use to convey your feelings. Ultimately, the best way to learn the differences is to keep speaking Japanese. This is a bit like saying “I know! Stop telling me!” in English. For example, you just reminded your friend that you’re running late for the third time, and they snap, “ wakatteiru!” at you. Likewise, “wakaru” has a similar function in certain situations as saying wakatteiru (I know) often sounds dismissive of the listener’s opinion.
It’s functioning as “you’re going to hurt yourself, but I don’t care.” Except, you actually do care. For example, if your cat tries to jump off the roof, you might yell, “ shiranai yo!” A literal translation would be “I don’t know.” But, in this context, shiranai sounds angry. Finally, there are also functional differences.
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